We do not even have control of our own thoughts and emotions so how do we expect to control another human being? The more we try to control and it does not work, the more stress we have. When we let go of the idea that we can control our children, and their sleep, the stress starts to disappear.
"A lot of people have had a lot of predictability and structure in their day before becoming a mom. If you are already a bit of a worrier, or perfectionist, or hard on yourself, people use structure, predictability and being successful as a way to manage that inner 'stuff'. Then baby comes along and BOOM!… out goes predictability, structure, there are no tangible successes."